Why I Took Two Steps Back With My Career

Why I Took Two Steps Back With My Career

Did you ever think you could literally go back towards your future? Sometimes taking two steps back helps you move forward. Let me explain.

Two years ago I took a leap of faith and accepted a job offer I couldn’t refuse. I was not planning to leave my current job that I absolutely loved. I had a flexible schedule, supportive co-workers, and I was valued there. What made me really appreciate my job was my family came first and upper management never questioned that. I was always provided a healthy balance of work and taking care of my son.

I was not looking for a new job at the time, but this new offer came to me so quick that I didn’t have that much time to think about it. This new job offered job security, a pension and opportunity to move up. I knew I needed to accept this opportunity because it would help my future significantly.

Working from home

HOWEVER, I DIDN’T REALIZE SOMETHING THAT COULD BENEFIT MY FUTURE MIGHT NOT BENEFIT ME RIGHT NOW. 

Leaving the job I adored was very hard for me, so I decided to not cut ties entirely and stay on per diem. I always knew I was welcomed back there if I ever needed to come back full time.

My new job was definitely an adjustment and I had a hard time getting into the groove of things. It took me close to a year to finally get a grasp on my position but as a result I spent less time with my son. Previously, if my son got sick at daycare I was only a 5 minute car ride away. With my new job I would have to take a bus home so I could get my car and then go pick him up. Sometimes it just wouldn’t be possible and my husband would get him instead. I was no longer able to drop him off or pick him up from daycare daily so my husband also took that on. As much as I appreciated this, I missed that quality time we had together talking about our day and what we plan to do when we get home. It was frowned upon when I needed to be home with my son whether he was sick or if it was a snow day so once again I would rely on my husband to do this. I felt guilty for not being able to take care of my son when I felt like he needed me the most.

A year later the pandemic hit and things became much more difficult for me as it did for every other parent across the world. I was working from home with a four year old who was used to going to preschool everyday. He needed my attention and it killed me not being able to give him 100% of me.

A few months into quarantine I got a call from two of my supervisors unexpectedly and it caught me off guard. They told me upper management was concerned with my productivity and they wanted to know why I was not meeting expectations. I started to laugh thinking it was a joke but quickly realized they were serious. I told them that my work environment was not ideal which caused some distractions, I never received proper IT support, I have a four year old who needs my undivided attention and WE ARE IN A GLOBAL STATE OF EMERGENCY.

None of my reasons were good enough and quite frankly they didn’t want to hear it. They proceeded to tell me my tasks are not hard and if they can get this work done so can I despite any barriers. I was then informed if I do not produce more work within next week further discipline would be taken. As they were telling me this my son was yelling from the bathroom for me to “wipe his butt”. I was able to keep myself composed despite the tears filling my eyes but as soon as I hung up the phone I lost it.

I have worked so hard despite my barriers and still was presented with threats and possible retaliation. I was never asked if I needed any support and they completely ignored the fact that I had a child I needed to take care of. After that phone call I worked in fear of losing my job. I spent less attention on Franco and became obsessed with my work. Despite all of this, I continued to be threatened of being disciplined and being transferred to an office 4 hours away if I couldn’t reach expectations.

I WAS COMPLETELY STRIPPED OF MY CONFIDENCE AS A WORKING PROFESSIONAL AND AS A MOTHER.

My self esteem declined all while being feared by the pandemic. Since March, I lost a family member, my psychiatrist dumped me and my husband lost his job. I was unable to cope because all of my focus was on my job. After 8 months of going back and forth I knew that I could no longer do this and decided to seek other employment.

I always stayed in touch with my previous supervisor since I still worked per diem and I opened up to her about how my job was affecting my mental health significantly. I always valued our relationship and her honesty with me. Ironically while all of this was happening my previous position had an opening. I was offered this position again but this time with more pay and benefits.

I wanted to yell ‘Heck yes!’ but I know it wasn’t a black and white decision. Although my salary would be significantly increased, was going backwards the right thing to do? Should I continue to go on interviews and completely start over on a clean slate? In all honesty, I wouldn’t be able to do that right now, not during this pandemic. I needed to go back to what always made me happy and value the mission of my work.

So that is what I did and it was an instant relief. I am able to take care of my son and efficiently get my work done because there is a healthy balance. Do I still struggle with guilt and feel like I am less of a person because I went back to my old position? I do, but in order to overcome this guilt I need to build my confidence and self esteem again.

If that means taking two steps back to help better my future then I will do just that.

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Spooky Fruity Milkshake

Spooky Fruity Milkshake

It is spooky season at the Robins Nest, my favorite time of year. As we prepare to eat all of the candy I wanted to make sure breakfast tasted like candy too.

This spooky fruity milkshake is such a delight! It is creamy, nutritious all with the exact taste of Froot Loops cereal.

You heard me right, Froot Loops flavored Carnation Breakfast Essentials exist and I am here for it!

Froot Loops Carnation Breakfast Essentials
Milkshake

Here is what you need to make this yummy milkshake.

Ingredients

  • 1 bottle Froot Loops flavored Carnation Breakfast Essentials
  • 1 cup frozen strawberries
  • 1 cup ice
  • Strawberry syrup
  • Whipped cream (optional)

Mix Carnation Breakfast Essentials, frozen strawberries and ice in a blender until smooth.

Drizzle the inside of your glass with strawberry syrup and top it off with whipped cream.

Sprinkle your own creepy crawlers to give it an extra spooky look!

Spooky milkshake
Spooky milkshake
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7 Easy Ways to Make Your Child’s Lunch Fun

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Making school lunches are new to me since Franco is starting Kindergarten this year. I love seeing all of the creative ideas parents out together to make kids smile at lunchtime.

As a full time working mom I know I am not going to have the time to make elaborate lunches. I will even most likely have him buy lunch at school, but the days I will make him lunch I will be sure to make them fun and delicious.

Favorite Lunch Box

I love this bento box! The quality is great, it’s easy to clean and perfect amount of compartments. I labeled it using my Cricut.

Favorite Drink Bottle

I got this for Franco over the summer and he loved decorating his own water bottle. There are many stickers to choose from to make it personalized.

Favorite Snack

Not only are these granola bars delicious, but they are free from common allergens and safe for schools.

Favorite Lunch Ideas

Stumped on ideas on what to make? Check these books out! There is a combination of 232 ideas.

Favorite Way to Make a Sandwhich

This thing is a lifesaver! Forget about buying Uncrustables in the freezer section at the market. These are so easy to make and store yourself.

When They Buy Lunch

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Let’s face it, there will be times your kid will need to buy lunch- AND THAT IS OKAY! Make sure the money they bring to school is safe with their own wallet with a zipper coin purse.

A Little Something Extra

Lunchbox notes
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Lunchbox notes were always my favorite. Little notes on fruit or little drawings were always my favorite, but I made these printable notes that have adorable puns. Click here for their printable.

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Fall Styles 2021

Fall Styles 2021

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My favorite season is finally here and I am so excited to see this years style. It is crazy to think that straight leg jeans are out and wide leg is back in. It was hard to get out of my comfort zone but happy to have some of my favorites like chunky cardigans and crossbody bags.

Neutral colors are still my choice and found some great pieces in all different shades of tan and brown. The best part is that everything is so affordable!

  1. Free Assembly Cropped Wide Leg Jeans
  2. Time and Tru Lug Wedge Commuter boot
  3. Shein Butterfly Sleeve Shirred Maxi Dress
  4. Time and Tru Drop Shoulder Bodysuit
  5. Time and Tru Boater Hat with Braid
  6. H&M Rib-knit Cardigan
  7. Free Assembly Women’s Teddy Fleece Cocoon Jacket
  8. Gold Rope Necklace
  9. Time and Tru Olivia Crossbody Bag
  10. V Neck Long Sleeve Henley Shirt

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DIY Citrus Lavender Milk Bath

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Just imagine, you spend all day at the beach having fun with your family. Laughs, snacks and memories are being made. This makes everyone happy. You can’t help but live in this moment and hold off on leaving for the day. It is time to go home and you all enter the house with the air conditioner blasting. The sun took all of the kids’ energy and put them to sleep for an afternoon nap. The house is finally calm and quiet. This is your chance to leave the mess so you can sneak up to the bathroom. You run yourself a bath to help relax and cool your sun kissed skin but still have enough energy to make dinner afterwards. This DIY citrus lavender milk bath is the perfect way to unwind after a family filled day.

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Sometimes a shower doesn’t cut it. This smooth and milky bath with a burst of citrus and lavender will leave you or your little ones with the softest skin.

It is so easy to make this DIY citrus lavender milk bath even your little ones with love it. Luckily, this recipe will make an abundance amount.

Diy citrus lavender milk bath

What You Need

In a bowl, mix together Epson salt, Himalayan salt and lavender buds from the sprigs. Add as much as you want depending on the strength of the scent you prefer. Drop in the essential oils and stir until everything is well blended. Add to the mix to glass jars and glue stick the printable label on tightly. Make sure to store in a cool place.

When ready to use, pour two cups of oat milk in a warm running bath. Scoop one cup of the bath salt mixture and add lemon slices, orange slices and lavender sprigs. This will make the bath look beautiful.

This DIY citrus lavender milk bath is the perfect wake up in the morning or to get your little ones relaxed and ready for bed at night. Either way it is a win for you!

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